Birth Mother Services
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What is the First Step?
Sometimes knowing where to begin can be difficult. Many birth parents start by just texting, emailing or calling us. You will reach one of our experienced counselors. She will answer all of your questions truthfully and candidly. She can help you explore your options. Often, we meet in person to share information. If we do meet you can pick the time and place. Our conversations and meetings will be confidential. If you choose adoption, your counselor will be with you every step of the way.
10 Things to Know About Adoption
If you are considering adoption, you are not alone. We are here to help. The process can seem confusing and complicated, but here at Adoption Resources, we aim to give you the most accurate and honest information to help you make the best choice for you and your baby.
- You have the right to choose.
- Talking about adoption does not obligate you to make an adoption plan.
- You have the right to privacy. All our work together is confidential.
- You have the right to plan an Open or Closed adoption.
- You have the right to choose and meet an adoptive family for your child.
- We can help you with living expenses during your pregnancy and after the birth.
- You have the right to receive free and confidential counseling for up to a year after your child is born.
- We can help you get medical care if you don’t have a doctor.
- We can help you with transportation.
- You have the right to receive photos and letters about your child or to have meetings over the years.
All our services are free to expectant parents. Sometimes birth mothers may find they need financial help with living expenses. We can help with rent, groceries, transportation and other pregnancy related expenses as allowed by law. These services are to help you and your baby stay healthy, whatever your decision is. Often, we are able to help you further your education or job training. We can sometimes provide tuition assistance for school or vocational training. Many women we have worked with have gone on to finish school or found work using skills they gained after their child was born.
An unplanned pregnancy can be a life crisis. We can help you consider your options and will support your choice. We are available 24/7 to help. A counselor is available to speak on the phone and meet with you at a time and place that you choose. Meeting and talking with us does not obligate you to make an adoption plan. Our goal is to support and counsel you as you make the decision that you feel is best for you and your baby. We want to help you turn a difficult decision into a positive experience. Our counselors will work with you during your pregnancy and, after the birth for as long as you want.
The best adoption plan is a plan that works for you. We will answer all your questions and provide options. You need a plan that makes you most comfortable. Some women choose to have an open adoption with on-going contact as a child grows. Occasionally a woman might choose to have a closed adoption. No matter what level of openness you choose, you will also be able to pick the perfect family to adopt your child. Adoption Resources has many families that we have evaluated and approved to adopt a child. We will share photo books and letters from these families. You may have preferences about a family’s race, culture, family size or religion. These choices are yours. Many women want to meet the family and begin to feel comfortable with them.
During the next few weeks or months, you will have many decisions to make.
Whether you are just thinking about adoption or you know it’s right for you, we want to help with accurate and honest information. We hope you will let the staff at Adoption Resources help you. We are a private, nonprofit adoption counseling and placement program. We have been working with children and families for more than 150 years. Our devoted staff is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. We understand what you are going through. Our staff includes those with personal adoption experience. We support your choices. We want you to make a plan that is right for you.
- If you choose adoption, you have the option to select a family and get to know them before your child’s birth. You can choose an open adoption if you feel that would be best for you and your child.
- Financial assistance is available if needed for living expenses as well as counseling, legal, and medical services.
- Educational assistance is available.
- Whatever level of openness you choose, together we will create an agreement that suits you and can be legally enforceable.
- Counseling is available before and after an adoption placement.
- Adoptive parents are carefully screened and are sensitively educated to the needs of birth parents and adoptees.
- In Open Adoption, you can know your child as they grow through visits and on-going contact. In less open adoptions families can exchange letters and pictures on an ongoing basis.
I turned to Adoption Resources at a particularly scary time in my life, the question of whether to give your child to another is never an easy one. Once I made the decision and spoke with my counselor I instantly felt better about my choice and never once did I regret it. I truly thank the agency and how they helped me through a difficult process with grace and ease. I hope other women facing this reality can be helped the way I was.
Whether you are just considering adoption, or know that it’s the right decision for you, we want to help. We want to answer your questions and concerns. We can provide you with honest and helpful information.
An unplanned pregnancy can be a crisis but it can also be the start of an important process. We want to help you create an adoption plan that feels positive. When you contact us, a counselor will spend as much time as you need. If you choose adoption you will be making a decision that works for you and your baby.
For more than 100 years, Adoption Resources has been helping birth parents explore their options.
How does adoption work?
No. You cannot sign anything that commits you to adoption until after your child is born. In Massachusetts, where Adoption Resources is located, the soonest you can sign legal documents regarding an adoption plan is four days after the birth of the child. The time period varies from state to state, and we will let you know of the legal process in your state.
If you choose, we can arrange for transitional care. This can give you enough time to be certain of your decision.
We will work out a budget with you and, if necessary, help with medical, legal, and living expenses.
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Birth Mother Journal
The experience of every birth parent is different
I can’t believe that I’m pregnant. I never thought this would happen to me. I took a pregnancy test last night because I’ve missed my period the last couple of months, and when the red plus sign on the test showed up I screamed so loud.
I didn’t realize I hadn’t written in almost a month. I finally went to the clinic earlier this week and the doctor did a bunch of testing. I am already 13 weeks pregnant! I am still barely showing so I was shocked that I’m that far along.
I still haven’t called the adoption agency. I’m not sure what I want to do yet. Sometimes I think it’s all a dream and if I close my eyes and open them I won’t be pregnant anymore. Obviously that’s not going to happen. I feel so emotional.
It’s been a while since I last wrote. I am obviously showing now and had to tell my parents. They were upset at first and sort of excited, too. This process has been really confusing. They reassured me that they want what is best for me.
I’ve been working with Marty at Adoption Resources for a few weeks now. She’s great. I was really nervous meeting her the first time but as soon as we met, I started to feel better. She was calm and warm and answered all my questions.
A lot has happened in the last month. I texted Joe that I needed to talk to him on the phone and he kept asking me what I wanted to talk about. I almost wanted to text him that I’m pregnant but I didn’t think it was fair to do over text.
I met the family a couple of weeks ago and we really hit it off. They are very nice people who were not able to have a child themselves. I feel even better about giving the baby up for adoption because I know how much they want a child.
Since having the baby, I’ve been so busy with school and work that I haven’t had time to write. I gave birth to a beautiful and healthy baby girl last week! Eight pounds! I let her adoptive parents name her and they stayed in the hospital.