When you are facing an unplanned pregnancy, you have several options. You can choose to parent your baby, place your baby for adoption, or terminate the pregnancy.
This choice should always be your decision. An Adoption Resources counselor can help you explore all of your options. When you speak to us, you are never obligated to make an adoption plan. We are here to sort out all of your possible options. There may be resources to help you take care of your child that have not occurred to you. Open adoption might be something you’d like to learn about. Whatever your questions are, we will help you find answers. And remember, you are not obligated to choose adoption unless you are sure it’s the right choice for you!
Over the years, we have worked with many women, and each has her own unique reason for making an adoption plan. Below, we have compiled sixteen of the most common reasons our clients choose adoption.
1. “I’m not ready to be a mom.”
An unplanned pregnancy might come at a time when you don’t have the resources to care for a baby. You may be in school or unemployed. You may feel that you’re too young to raise a child.
2. “I can’t afford to have a baby.”
Raising a baby can be expensive. Clothing, food, daycare, and medical bills can be too much of a financial burden. An adoptive family can provide a financially secure future for your child.
3. “I don’t want my baby in foster care.”
If you have other children in state foster care, or if you were raised in the foster care system, you might want to avoid that for this baby. Making a voluntary adoption plan with Adoption Resources will allow you to control the process for you and your baby. You can choose and meet the adoptive family for your child. You can have an open adoption.
4. “My living situation isn’t safe for a baby.”
You may not have a place to live or have a difficult home situation. The baby’s father may be unsupportive. It can take time to change these things, and you may feel that your baby needs stability and safety now.
5. “I don’t have insurance. How can I pay for this?”
Pregnancy and childbirth are expensive. We can help you get insurance to cover some of those costs. In most cases, the hospital and doctors will accept state insurance for those fees.
6. “My other kids are all grown up. I didn’t want more children.”
An unplanned pregnancy can happen at any time in your life. If you feel as though your family is complete, you may not want to raise another child.
7. “I don’t want children.”
Some women have never planned to raise children.
8. “I have too many challenges now.”
Some women struggle with depression, anxiety, or other mental health issues. Maybe you are in early recovery from substance use or have relapsed. No matter what the issues are, you will be respected and valued as you consider your options.
9. “I want to get my other children back.”
Maybe your children are in the care of DCF or the state. If you are working toward reunification with those children, another baby could make that even harder.
10. “I don’t feel any connection to this baby.”
Maybe you just don’t feel a bond with this baby. That’s okay. Sometimes, the circumstances of the child’s conception involve trauma. Regardless of the reason that you don’t feel a connection, there are adoptive families that can give this child unconditional love.
11. “This baby’s father is abusive. I don’t want to be with him.”
Parenting a child for 18 years can mean an 18-year relationship with the father as well. Maybe you don’t want any contact with the baby’s father. Mothers who choose adoption can more easily cut contact with their abusive former partner.
12. “I want my baby to have two parents.”
Sometimes, a single woman chooses adoption to give her child a stable two-parent family.
13. “I don’t believe in abortion.”
Many women choose not to terminate their pregnancy for moral or religious reasons. However, parenting the child may not be possible for any of the reasons listed here.
14. “I want an open adoption.”
Many adoptive parents look forward to an open adoption with their child’s birth mother. You can choose the family for your child and you can also choose the level of openness in the adoption. Having a relationship with your child and seeing them grow can be a wonderful way to stay connected.
15. “I want to help someone who can’t have a baby.”
Some women find that the life crisis of an unplanned pregnancy can become a blessing for someone else. Most adoptive parents are unable to have children. Your loving and selfless decision to “give up” your child can make their dreams come true.
16. “I want my baby to have opportunities that I can’t give them.”
Sometimes, the possibility of an education, a large loving family, and stability make a woman choose adoption for her child.
Whatever your reason is for considering adoption, we are here to support you. To get in touch with an Adoption Resources counselor, please call us at 800-533-4346, text us at 781-227-3060, or fill out our contact form.